The average American hasn’t made a new friend in five years … have you?

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A study conducted by OnePoll in conjunction with Evite, uncovered that one of the reasons 42 percent of adults struggle to make friends is due to introversion or shyness. (Photo by Ismail Hamzah on Unsplash)

Forty-five percent of adults say they find it difficult to make new friends, according to new research.

A new study into the social dynamics of 2,000 Americans revealed that the average American hasn’t made a new friend in five years.

In fact, it seems for many that popularity hits its peak at age 23, and for thirty-six percent, it peaks even before age 21.

The study, conducted by OnePoll in conjunction with Evite, uncovered that one of the reasons 42 percent of adults struggle to make friends is due to introversion or shyness.

And the challenge is not just in breaking out of their shell but also breaking into new social situations and circles.

The majority of respondents cite friendship-making barriers that include aversion to the bar scene where most people choose to socialize, or the feeling that everyone’s friendship groups have already formed.

Other notable reasons Americans can’t seem to make new friends as an adult include commitments to family (29 percent), not having any hobbies that allow them to meet new people (28 percent) and moving to a new city (21 percent).

Though adults find the struggle to be very real when it comes to making new friends, they are open to suggestions for expanding their social circle. In fact, 45 percent of those studied reveal they would go out of their way to make new friends if they knew how or had more opportunities.

Piera Pizzo, Evite’s In-House Party Specialist, stated, “For the 45 percent who are looking to make new friends, the best and most underrated way to do that these days is still in-person. You can host a party, or something more low-key like book club or happy hour, and tell each of your guests to bring a friend. You’ll be surprised at how naturally social circles can come together, and at the lasting connections you can make when bonding face-to-face.”

And how many friends do adults actually have? Turns out, 16. The average American has three friends for life, five people they really like and would hang out with one-on-one, and eight people they like but don’t spend time with one-on-one or seek out.

Most people have remained close with friends they met when they were younger. Nearly half of those surveyed have stayed friends with peers from high school, and a further 31 percent with peers from college.

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Kicking it even more old-school, three in 10 Americans say they have made lasting connections with people they met in their childhood neighborhood.

However, 82 percent of those studied feel like lasting friendships are hard to find. The number one cause of lost friendships is moving away, with 63 percent revealing this to be a reason they’ve fallen out of touch with a former friend.

With no shortage of challenges to staying in touch with friends, how can Americans ensure that growing up doesn’t mean growing apart?

Pizzo suggests, “We know better than anyone else that nothing happens unless you get it on the calendar. Whether it’s a casual bi-weekly dinner with local friends, or an annual trip for long-distance ones, take the initiative to make and set time for the people you value in your life. That time is even proven to make you happier and healthier, so there’s no reason to wait.”

TOP 5 PLACES LASTING FRIENDSHIPS BEGIN

  1. Work (previous jobs) 48%
  2. High school 46%
  3. College 31%
  4. Childhood neighborhood 30%
  5. Extra-curricular activities 25%
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TOP 5 REASONS IT’S HARD TO MAKE FRIENDS AS AN ADULT

  1. Being introverted/shy 42%
  2. Most people just want to go to a bar but that’s not my scene 33%
  3. I feel like everyone has their friendship groups already formed 33%
  4. My family takes up a lot of my time 29%
  5. I don’t have any hobbies that allow me to meet new people 28%
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TOP 5 REASONS FOR LOSING A FRIEND

  1. Moving away 63%
  2. Growing apart 61%
  3. Both getting too busy 42%
  4. Betrayal (sharing secrets, gossip) 32%
  5. Lack of support through a tough time 24%
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TOP 5 CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD FRIEND

  1. Honesty 82%
  2. Trust 81%
  3. Loyalty 75%
  4. Kindness 71%
  5. Sense of humor 63%
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THE AVERAGE AMERICAN HAS:

  • Three best friends
  • Five good friends
  • Eight people they like but don’t spend one-on-one time with
  • 50 acquaintances
  • 91 social media friends

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