Bad Sex? Most Americans Say That’s A ‘Deal Breaker’

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According to a study conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Lora DiCarlo for Sexual Health Awareness Month, 68% of sexually-active respondents said bad sex is a total deal breaker. (Photo by Damir Spanic on Unsplash)

A third of sexually-active Americans have dumped someone after having bad sex, according to new research.

The survey asked 2,000 Americans (approximately 1,800 of whom have been sexually active) about their sex lives and what’s an absolute turn-off with a partner.

And it turns out you better be good in bed if you want another date: 68% of sexually-active respondents said bad sex is a total deal breaker.

Conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Lora DiCarlo for Sexual Health Awareness Month, the survey also sought to find how successful respondents’ sex lives were and found four in 10 respondents feel like they’ve never experienced a true orgasm.

The survey also found that 17% of the time, sexually-active respondents are faking it in bed — at an average of four times a month — with women faking an average of 39 orgasms yearly.

Unfortunately, their partners seem to be in the dark, as 46% of sexually-active respondents believe their partners have never faked an orgasm with them.

With this orgasm gap, it’s not surprising that 44% of sexually-active respondents were in agreement that they don’t know enough about their partner’s needs to give them an orgasm.

Men were also more likely to agree with this statement, at 50% compared to just 36% of sexually-active women.

Fifty-four percent of sexually-active respondents do want to improve their sex lives with their partners, however, but they don’t know how.

Half of respondents also want to provide more pleasure to their partners but feel lost on how to do so.

This lack of communication shows on their partner’s end as well, as 47% of sexually-active respondents unfortunately feel like their partner doesn’t know how to fully pleasure them in bed.

Fifty-three percent of sexually-active respondents also want to have a conversation with their partner about how they improve their sex lives, but they don’t want to offend them.

“Sexual pleasure has been so stigmatized that it’s difficult for people to ask for the things they actually find pleasurable,” said Lora DiCarlo, Founder and CEO of her namesake brand. “Sex isn’t a one-sided event, open communication between partners leads to not only better sex, but inspires confidence and empowerment. Who doesn’t want that?”

Just over a third of respondents shared they use sex toys in their lives — with 34% of this group using them often for masturbation, and 38% use them often with a partner as well.

Seventy-four percent of those who use sex toys also said they’re more likely to orgasm when using toys.

And for those who do use toys with their partners (approximately 700 respondents), three-quarters said using sex toys in the bedroom has improved their communication with their partner.

“Sex tech allows individuals the opportunity to develop a deeper understanding of their own bodies, sexual preferences and needs, which, in turn, translates to a deeper understanding of one’s self and can be used to inspire better communication between partners,” DiCarlo explained.

“Empowered sex leads to great sex, which is why Lora DiCarlo develops sexual wellness products that are designed to unlock people’s confidence on their path to pleasure while combatting the stigmas associated with sex.”

Americans are faking it …
Men — 16% of the time or 4 times a month
Women — 18% of the time or 3 times a month

And they think their partners never fake it with them…
Men — 38%
Women — 56%

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